Are you aligned with your life purpose?

Guest post by Emma Lyons, Life Purpose Coach 

 

Do you get a subtle, yet unmistakable niggling feeling that your work at the moment just doesn’t quite fit you somehow? Even if what you’re doing happens to be your own business, do you find yourself running out of steam and passion for your many projects? Or do you get sneaking, niggling thoughts that indicate a misalignment between your current career and what you really want? If the purpose isn’t quite there in your current role, maybe it’s time for you to alter the path and start walking down a new path that is truly purposeful, passionate and aligned with who you are in this red hot moment of time. There is no inspiration in doing a business based on what you’re “supposed” to do. If you’re not turned on, you won’t turn anyone else on.

We are all familiar with people who achieve long-held goals, whether that be in their career or in another area only to find themselves falling flat emotionally with the horrific disappointment as to whether this is as good as it actually gets. These thoughts can arise at any stage, even when we’re heavily invested in a career or business. If we don’t listen at an early stage, the alarm clock gets increasingly loud, becoming more and more painful and we can become chronically misaligned. In the early stages this alarm clock can appear as a subtle ennui that most people easily ignore. However the longer we leave this, doing nothing to address the issue, the more difficult and challenging the wake up call is likely to become.

1. Core Values

If this is you and you sometimes find yourself miserable within the empire you’ve struggled so hard to create, if you feel like your business and the beliefs you hold around it are holding you and your life hostage, the good news is that there is a way out of this situation. To leave this painful emotional state behind, you need to get clear on what you really want for your life. What are the values you are seeking to express in your mission? And the most obvious question of all what is it that you want to achieve in your life? What is it that you want to leave behind? What will be your legacy to future generations? I don’t have to tell you that being miserable is not going to take you further in that direction.

2. Belief Systems

Next you need to take a hard look at the results in your life so far and get clear on what belief systems are currently in operation inside your head. For some the clarity of what to do is there, but there is massive fear as to how to move in that direction. Is it that you don’t think a change is possible at this ‘late’ stage? No matter how late you think you are, the truth is that it’s never actually too late unless you decide to believe and take that on for yourself. Maybe the anxiety about all the stuff you would have to learn is holding you back. Another word for learning is growth. So start looking at all that scary learning you may have to do and focus all the potential growth and opportunities that can spring out of this. Also, don’t hesitate to appreciate the transferable skills you already have. No matter how different your new concept appears to be from your old role, you can bring massive value to this with the experience you carry with you.

Maybe you, like so many know that something isn’t quite right, but just have no freaking idea as to where you’re ‘supposed’ to be heading. The stuckness that so often arises from this usually stems from an overwhelming feeling of dread that moving will somehow cause all you know and all that is familiar to crumble down around you to reveal the terrifying void of the unknown. The trick with these kinds of feelings is to look and find what’s truly going on beneath. What’s the worst thing about the unknown? What are you really so afraid of? With the help of a good coach and some serious introspection the answers will arise and the truth will set you free. Yes indeed, we can choose new belief systems and reinterpret our past to create a new and exciting present and future. Since nothing in life has any meaning other than the meaning we give it anyway, why not take the hint from the universe, don’t be a martyr to your old belief systems and actually do something about it.

So be brave and own up to yourself if what you’re doing now is no longer exciting you, if it seems to drain your life’s energy and motivation and leaves you feeling disempowered and anxious. Know that this is not who you truly are. Own that misalignment and take the nudge from the universe to start you moving from misaligned misery to expansion, purpose, passion and enthusiasm. No matter where you are now, know that this is possible for you.

If this resonates with you and you are looking for a guide on this exciting journey feel free to get in touch for a no obligation strategy session. I can help you get clear on your current values; belief systems and can help you shift to more empowering beliefs. While this can happen really quickly I work with people over periods of 6 weeks to 6 months to ensure clarity, purpose, passion and excitement are deeply ingrained in your new life.

Emma Lyons – Life purpose Coach
www.experiencetrueself.com
info@experiencetrueself.com

Judy Robinett‏ – How to be a Power Connector

Judy Robinett

This interview with Judy is packed full of valuable tips that you can immediately begin implementing in your business. We discussed how you can effectively network with powerful people regardless of whether you are shy or don’t think you have the right connections. And how those connections can create opportunities beyond your wildest dreams!


Judy Robinett is the author of “How to Be a Power Connector: The 5-50-150 Rule,” #1 of The Top Ten Business Books of 2014 by Time.com. Robinett is a business thought leader who is known as “the woman with the titanium digital Rolodex.” She has been profiled in Inc., Forbes, Venture Beat, Huffington Post, and Bloomberg Businessweek as a sterling example of the new breed of “super connectors” who use their experience and networks to accelerate growth and enhance profitability.

In her more than 30 years of experience as an entrepreneur and corporate leader, Robinett has served as the CEO of both public and private companies and in management positions at Fortune 500 companies. She has been on the advisory boards of Illuminate Ventures, an early-stage venture capital firm based in Menlo Park, California; Pereg Ventures, a venture capital firm based in New York; Springboard Enterprises based in Washington, DC; and Women Innovate Mobile (WIM) accelerators based in New York.

She was a managing director of Golden Seeds Angel Network (the third most active angel investment group and one of the largest in the U.S.); the CEO of publicly traded Medical Discoveries; and she served on the faculty of Goldman Sachs’s 10,000 Small Businesses program.

She was a member of the Department of Commerce team that defined performance criteria for the Malcolm Baldrige National Quality Award for Performance Excellence in Healthcare, for which she received an award from President Bill Clinton.

Robinett has given over 300 speeches worldwide for audiences at MIT, BIO-Europe, CalPoly, AT&T, Westinghouse, and the Department of Energy.

She is the coauthor of a chapter in Crowdfunding for Dummies by Sherwood Neiss, Jason W. Best, and Zak Cassady-Dorion (Wiley, 2013).

Robinett lives in Salt Lake City, Utah.

Listen to Interview

Learn more about Judy at: www.judyrobinett.com and grab a copy of her #1 Best Seller How to be a Power Connector on Amazon. 

11 Questions to Stimulate a Business Growth Spurt (Entrepreneur Assessment)

Are you currently at your full business potential? Answer these 11 questions to unlock your mental resources for business growth.

The purpose of this assessment is to be both fun and enlightening. In fact, if you really give these questions some thought (I recommend writing down your answers for maximum impact) I can almost guarantee you will become aware of areas in your business that you could easily improve by implementing what you already know!

Let’s get right to it…

Question 1: What do you tell people when they ask you what you do? (For example: Your elevator pitch.)

Question 2: Who do you help with your products/services; and how does what you offer benefit them?

Question 3: Which of your products or services bring in the most revenue?

Question 4: What great ideas have you had over the past year or so that you haven’t implemented yet?

Question 5: What are the easiest (and/or most enjoyable) income producing activities in your business?

Question 6: Who have you learned the most valuable business lessons from (practical strategies to success habits/mindset); and what are they?

Question 7: What have been your most effective marketing strategies/tactics?

Question 8: If you had to generate cash fast, what would you do?

Question 9: Who have your best clients/customers been and how did they find you?

Question 10: If you were giving a new business owner your best advice, what would it be?

Question 11: What resources do you have available to you right now, that if you utilize them, they will help you improve your business (for instance, books or home study courses that you could revisit)?

Do you have a thought provoking – business growth – dig into your mental experience bank question to contribute? Post yours in comments.


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The Mindset, Marketing, and Making of YOUR Lifestyle Business

Getting Aligned (Chapter 2: The “Outside the Box” Entrepreneur)

As a Business Coach and Mindset Strategist (a word I coined to describe the unique way I work with clients to shift subconscious patterns), I help my clients identify and resolve the old beliefs/patterns that create problems in their life. We all have beliefs, behavior patterns, unresolved emotional wounds and fears that hold us back from the happiness, fulfillment and success we aspire for. This is where the misalignment originates.

In order to create what we want in life or business, we must be in alignment with it. When our old conditioning opposes our desire, the achievement of our desire can feel impossible.

Virtually every one of us can relate to setting a goal that was easy for us to achieve. Likewise, we can all relate to setting a goal that not only seemed to elude us, but was extremely emotionally painful in the striving (and potentially failing) to achieve it.

It always has to do with our beliefs, or what I refer to as our conditioning.

This understanding of belief systems has become common knowledge to many. You don’t have to attend college for psychology or receive advanced training in hypnotherapy from an accredited collage like I did to understand that our beliefs affect our lives. That being said, understanding how to change your belief systems is much more complex. Furthermore, the answer to our greatest challenge is typically in our blind spot. Sometimes we need help to clearly see what is holding us back.

What is alignment?

I frequently use the word alignment. It has a metaphysical origin, as well as a practical one. I believe both are relevant. We live in a fascinating universe; complex beyond comprehension. It is perfect – infallible – strategic – mathematical and adhering to strict universal laws that govern our existence. If that seemed deep, that was my intention. To understand alignment, we must understand the law of attraction. A senior law, which encompasses several other universal principles, and can be simply defined as: Like Attracts Like.

Metaphysicians long before our time knew that everything in our universe is energy. Everything seen and unseen vibrates at different frequencies. Whether it is the chair you are sitting on, the electromagnetic frequency emitted by your cellphone, or the thoughts you are thinking, they are all energy; each vibrating at a unique frequency. Taking this concept a step further, each thought you think has its own unique frequency. And their corresponding emotions are also vibrational in nature.

The law of attraction could be explained metaphorically as the law of magnetism. The magnet is always either attracting or repelling based on its polarity. It doesn’t stop. Again, it is always working – either attracting or repelling. Forgive my seeming insensitivity towards ignorance, but anyone who says the law of attraction doesn’t work for them is wrong. It is a law, it is always working. You are always attracting to you a vibrational match to your dominant thought/emotion vibrations.

So when I refer to alignment, I am referring to a state of being. Specifically, when your dominate thought-emotion vibration is aligned with the vibration of what you want.

When you have old beliefs, patterns, and conditioning that contradict what you desire, you are emitting a vibrational frequency that is out of alignment. Like the magnet in our metaphor, it is repelling what you want.

An important caveat: It is not always necessary, and certainly not beneficial to try to identify and change every “negative” belief or pattern. It is, however, necessary and beneficial when you know you are out of alignment with what you desire. Especially when the thing you wish to change is creating distress.

When you have old beliefs, patterns, and conditioning that contradict what you desire, you are emitting a vibrational frequency that is out of alignment.

How to release the beliefs, patterns and conditioning that are creating misalignment?

This is a big topic. One so big, there are literally millions of books, audios, therapists, coaches, experts, programs, and techniques to address it. Is there one that is more effective than another? Sure. Is there one that is guaranteed to work for everyone? Unlikely. Why it is that way is another big topic, and one that I will not address here. However, I will say, in order for any technique, expert or solution to work for you, you must have made the decision to change.

I like to use an example to demonstrate this important concept. When I owned and operated my hypnotherapy practice, I attracted a lot of clients who wanted to quit smoking. Before I would agree to take on the client, I assessed their readiness to quit. Smoking is an interesting thing, because there are a lot of emotional reasons someone smokes. There are also a lot of emotional reasons that same individual wants to quit.

The subconscious mind stores all of the memories, good and bad associations, habitually practiced and reconditioned responses the smoker has had. And even when someone knows all the logical rational reasons to quit, from the health implications to the expense and social dogmas, their subconscious is holding a stronger more powerful positive association with the behavior.

The good news is that the old positive associations can be overridden. And smoking can easily become a thing of the past. But, if the individual has not make the decision to quit, if they waiver, or if they are doing it because someone else wants them to – not of their own choosing, then nothing or no one has the power to facilitate the change.

This is important to understand. You can change almost any belief, pattern or conditioning with the right tools and intention. But, if you have not decided — if you have not committed, then you will not change. If you waiver, then you are holding onto a belief that there is more benefit to stay the same than to change.

Stop for a moment and reflect on this…

Honestly reflect on what benefit you get from staying the same (your current circumstances). Is it the comfort of what is known? Is there a secret benefit, like sympathy? Be brutally honest with yourself, because if you truly want to create the lifestyle you desire, and something is in the way, then you must identify what you are holding onto and be willing to release it. You must make a committed decision to change.

This is important to understand. You can change almost any belief, pattern or conditioning with the right tools and intention. But, if you have not decided — if you have not committed, then you will not change. If you waiver, then you are holding onto a belief that there is more benefit to stay the same than to change.

Review and Implementation

You already know the importance of taking action. In fact, often what separates successful individuals from those who live a life of mediocrity is the willingness to take persistent action in spite of obstacles, setbacks and delayed gratification. If you have not already taken time for introspection based on the previous chapters, I encourage you to do so now.

♦  What do you really want?

Not what you think you should want or think you should have, but what you desire with your whole heart and soul. What does that look like? What does that feel like?

♦  What benefits are you getting out of your current circumstances?

Be brutally honest with yourself. If there is something you have been struggling to change, then you are holding onto something. Why might you not want to change? What are you afraid you will lose?

♦  Make a committed decision.

If you are clear about what you really want, and you are willing to let go of what was in the way, change can happen with ease.

The ability to change starts with a committed decision.


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Training: Effective Storytelling in Business – The Hero’s Journey

Guest Expert Andy Brine shares a brief video training on how to apply “The Hero’s Journey” in your business. Storytelling in your marketing and sales copy is a highly effective strategy for building rapport and inspiring action.

The Hero’s Journey is a pattern of narrative identified by the American scholar Joseph Campbell that appears in drama, storytelling, myth, religious ritual, and psychological development.  It describes the typical adventure of the archetype known as The Hero, the person who goes out and achieves great deeds on behalf of the group, tribe, or civilization.


Andy Brine is the Founder of Hangout Tribes and helps businesses and organizations communicate more effectively online using Video, Live Events Online and with through their Websites. It is his goal and mission to teach people how they can use the true power of social media and digital communication to build their authority and influence online. He does that by helping businesses to clarify their message, deliver it effectively online and use social media and live events to engage with a global audience.

Andy is an extremely passionate, insightful and technically minded coach, engaging with people face-to-face, through video, on stage and online through social media. He fully engages with people, helping them discover what they really want and why. Andy develops cutting edge and innovative solutions that specifically fit the needs and budget of his clients. If there is ever a problem, Andy listens to fully understand what is being meant to ensure the outcome meets expectations.

It’s his mission to help businesses build strong online relationships and grow their TRIBE through simple, sustainable steps.

For More Information Visit: http://www.aworld4change.com/sustainability-in-the-modern-world-live-show

What do you really want? (Chapter One of The “Outside the Box” Entrepreneur)

A few years ago I developed a group coaching program called Business Mindset Mastery. It was designed for new to intermediate business owners who hadn’t fully embodied the core traits of successful entrepreneurs. You are already well aware that there is a significant difference between an entrepreneurial mindset and an employee mentality. And for most business owners, there is a process that must be gone through to develop those mindset traits.

The very first concept I addressed with my students in that program begins with this question: What do you really want? Followed by an honest assessment of why?

Most of us think we know what we want and why. But I challenge you, be very honest with yourself. Do you really know what you want in your life and business? Why do you believe you want it?

From the time we are born (some say even while in utero) we are absorbing, learning and forming conclusions about life from people around us. We begin to take on certain points of view about what success is. And most people are creating their lives based on other people’s beliefs about what you should or should not do – on what other people believe success is.

Pause to answer the following questions:

♦ What do you believe success is?
♦ Where did those beliefs come from?
♦ Does your version of what success is align with what you really, truly, want for your life?

Chances are, if you have any degree of un-fulfillment in your life and/or business, your current beliefs are not completely aligned with what you truly want to experience in your life.

The first step is to be honest about what you want and make a decision to have it. The second step is to get aligned and take action to create it.

More to come…

About the book:

An esoteric, yet practical guide for entrepreneurs who are unsatisfied with their current business to:

»  Finally get clear on what you really want out of your life so can take practical steps to achieve it.

»  Shift out of old disempowering belief patterns and habits, and into an aligned way of thinking and action for increased life and business satisfaction.

»  Learn a simple and profoundly effective way to use the power of visualization to your advantage.

»  Become proficient at recalibrating yourself to feel more empowered and be more effective in your business.

»  Assess which high impact marketing strategies will work best for you to create your ideal lifestyle business.

About the Author: Alicia Cramer is business coach and renowned mindset expert. She works with small business owners and entrepreneurs to overcome mental and emotional obstacles to increased success, well-being and happiness.

Learn more about working with Alicia at: www.aliciacramer.com


Ask Alicia: Is the Subconscious Mind Bad?

Question:

Alicia,

Please excuse this intrusion. I have found myself “seeking” much more. Possibly because I want to achieve enlightenment, not sure, but I am really being drawn to self-love, which according to this website (obscured) is what I should be trying to achieve.

So why am I knocking on your door? As I have told you before, I have a great deal of respect for you, particularly your insight. Would you mind glancing over the articles on that website and telling me if from your knowledge and experience, is my subconscious what I need to ignore, or as it is said, live in the moment?

If that is the case, what is the purpose of having goals? My previous readings of books on business and self-improvement lead me in the direction of having targets, long term goals, planting affirmations that allow my subconscious to point me in the right direction, without my knowing why. Yet the website would have me believe that I should just go with the flow.

Perhaps this all sounds quite scattered. And just trying to articulate it to you has proven a bit therapeutic, so thank you for “listening.”

I trust you are well and that there is an abundance of joy in your life.

gry

 
Alicia’s Response:
 

Hi Gary,

Happy Holidays!!

From my experience, aspiring to higher consciousness and a deep connection with Source is one of the most loving honorable things one can do.

The “subconscious” mind and even the mind in general really have mixed (even dogmatic) definitions within the spiritual community. If you take the dogma out of it, then we can define the subconscious mind as a necessary part of our human experience. We need it in order to function (literally). It controls our automatic functions – physical and mental, it also is a repository of memories and (programed/conditioned) responses. Unfortunately, some of our learned responses directly contradict even our most spiritual aspirations. That being said, you cannot deny your subconscious… those ‘programs’ don’t just go away (even if you “practice living in the moment” which is valuable) and your subconscious does not reason, therefore, it cannot discern what programs are bad/wrong/inaccurate. The subconscious is a mechanism – like your lungs are a mechanism, they don’t have a consciousness to discern what you are breathing in, they take in good air or bad air just the same.

An analogy: Say you smoked for 40 years, and after putting all that crap in your lungs, now it hurts when you breath and your energy is low from insufficient oxygen, so you decide “these lungs don’t work the way I want them to, I am going to get rid of them”….  That would seem illogical because you know you need your lungs in order live. Yet, people say, “your subconscious is bad – look what it is doing to you – get rid of it”. That is ludicrous.

On a positive note; like all laws in the Universe, through your dominate conscious intentions, you can and will attract into your life the circumstances necessary to recondition/transcend old conditioning that works against your higher aspirations and well-being. That really is what a spiritual practice is about. Many of the desires or goals for material gratification are transcended. BUT, the mistake I see many of my close spiritual friends make is making material life a “bad” thing. Which contradicts the desire to be spiritual and one with source. It is like saying, Source is the most important thing, yet I reject the experience that Source created which I am a part of….

In conclusion… respect the “subconscious” as you would respect your heart or lungs. It is doing it’s job. Understanding how and why it works the way it does will give you more liberation from the challenges it creates in your life than trying to ignore it will.

Hope that helps.

Blessings!

 
 
 Learn more about working with Alicia at: www.aliciacramer.com